The [body] struggle is REAL

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I’m someone who struggles sometimes. Someone who struggles to feel great in her body. Someone who has lingering disordered thoughts around food and exercise. Someone who doesn’t always “get it right” and is learning to not beat herself up about it.

You’re not alone.

It’s easy to make assumptions about people. It’s easy to look at the surface and assume that people have it all together (hello Instagram!). The reality is that we all struggle to some degree. Yes, I’m a Nutritionist, BUT I’m also human. All of the struggles that one goes through around food and body have affected me as well. I’m not immune. I actually thought, at one time, that by getting an advanced degree in nutrition, I’d have all the answers. I was wrong.

Our bodies are constantly changing, from childhood to puberty, adulthood to late adulthood. They are not meant to stay the same. And this may mean that your nutritional needs may change. This may mean that your physical activities need to change. And what it most certainly will mean, is that you will inevitably gain (and maybe even lose) weight over the course of your life. We don’t always have control over the changes our bodies go through. In fact, there are so many things that are out of our control. But the thing you can focus on are your behaviors. The things that add up to a longer, more fulfilling life.

Healing is not linear. You don’t wake up one day being able to eat intuitively and loving your body. Healing is about momentum. The emphasis is on moving forward and moving upward. And when you find yourself beating yourself up, introduce curiosity and compassion. Those two things will take you a long way.

So the next time you are struggling, remember that we all are, to some degree. Sometimes more, sometimes less. And sometimes somewhere in between.

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All things body image

If you don’t like yourself (body included), how are you supposed to take care of yourself?

I talk a lot to my clients about body acceptance, body neutrality, and body confidence. No matter where you are in this process, very new or starting to feel really good about your body, there are always challenges around this topic. It’s such a hard thing to do! So below you’ll find 5 ways to start the process of body acceptance:

  1. Take stock of what you’ve got. Instead of looking at the external, think of what your body has done and is currently doing for you. Make a list that you can access when you don’t like what you see in the mirror.
  2. Grieve your old body. You may or may not ever get back to the body you once had and that’s ok! Part of accepting where you are now is not staying in a place where you are compared to your old self. Do what you need to let her go.
  3. Study yourself. Look inward to see what you need then research ways to meet those needs. That may be more or less movement, more structure or flexibility in eating styles, more sleep, or less stress. This will shift you from the feeling of helplessness around your body to positive action.
  4. Stop holding yourself back. Stop focusing on what will happen if you lose the weight. Do the things on your list now. You may never be completely ready to wear the bathing suit in public, but do it anyway. No waiting or goal weight necessary.
  5. Find body-confident role models. Follow some people who have a similar shape and size and exhibit confidence. Unfollow people who are self-deprecating. Positivity is contagious!

And if you are like most people and need guidance or support around your body image, I’m here to help! You deserve to live a life that is free from shame. You can prioritize your health AND accept your current body! Schedule a Food Freedom Fundamentals call!

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You mean I can eat whatever I want and find health?

Permission is a beautiful thing. Once we allow ourselves to eat all the things, we can stop placing food on a pedestal and can finally eat in a more balanced and nutritious way naturally.

One of the most common misconceptions about Intuitive Eating is that you end up eating anything and everything with zero regard to your health. The truth is, however, that people who adopt Intuitive Eating begin to consume more fruits and vegetables and have a diet with more diversity and variety. They also have lower incidence of binge eating and disordered eating. (Holler at me if you’d like to read the studies that have shown these things to be true!)

The kicker is that one of the principles in Intuitive Eating is the unconditional permission to eat. That’s right. Unconditional. Like nothing is off limits.

And that can be SCARY. Especially if you’ve been on countless diets and have been told that certain foods are the cause of diseases. But the scariest part for most of my clients is the idea that once these foods are off-limits, they’ll NEVER stop eating them. And that they will eat them to excess. And that said food(s) will make them fat.

But in reality all permission really does (in the long run) is take the food off of the pedestal that we’ve put it on. And it’s that same pedestal that causes us to binge or overeat or feel out of control around food or eat past comfortable fullness. Because deprivation of anything will cause these things to occur.

So what if we lived in a world where all foods fit? How would that feel? How would it feel to not think about food 24/7? How would it feel to make food decisions based on what you REALLY want to eat? How would it feel to actually choose to eat vegetables because you LOVE them and not because someone once told you that they are good for you? If staying away from sugar-laden foods was not because of a rule from a diet but because you really don’t like the donut that much anyway. Or you’ll have it later and only eat half because “woah” that was sweet and I’ve had enough.

I used to think Dr. Oz was crazy when he said to only eat 3 bites of a dessert. I never understood how someone could do that. How was it humanly possible to stop at 3 bites? Well now I know, because I’m often that person. And not because I think I “shouldn’t” but rather because I simply don’t want anymore. (And that’s not to say that I don’t eat the whole thing sometimes too, because sometimes I really want it and that’s ok too!)

You don’t have to stay where you are. There’s a way out.

If this resonates with you and you are like most people and need guidance or support around your relationship with food, I’m here to help! You deserve to make peace around food. You can prioritize your health AND give yourself unconditional permission to eat! Let’s chat! Schedule a Food Freedom Fundamentals call.